20 Personal Things You Should Never Share With Others

Written By Jill Taylor

Building meaningful connections with others requires a certain level of transparency and trust, but that doesn’t mean you have to tell your friends and family members everything! Some aspects of our lives are too personal, incriminating, or risky to share. This article explores 20 aspects of your personal life that you should always keep confidential.

Bank Details

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The Times of India says sharing your bank account details with anyone is risky and often unnecessary. There are plenty of ways to send and receive money that don’t require sharing sensitive information. Even if you trust the person wholeheartedly, they may accidentally pass the information on to others or keep an insecure record.

Investment Strategies

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Financial successes and losses are private and should only be shared with financial advisors or professionals. Not only can you open yourself up to requests for financial aid (if your investments are flourishing), but you may feel guilt-ridden should a friend choose to copy your strategy and end up losing money.

Debt Amounts

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Blabbing to other people about your debts isn’t recommended, even if you know them well. Credit Karma warns that debt collectors can talk to close friends and relatives about your debt and other details—like large, off-the-book purchases or undeclared income. To avoid repercussions, only discuss your debt with professionals or those you share it with.

Other People’s Relationships

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Just because someone confided in you doesn’t mean they expect you to share those personal details with others. Discussing the intimate details of another person’s romantic relationships or marriage troubles, especially on social media or through idle gossip, can permanently destroy the trust in a friendship.

Medical History

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Your medical history and past diagnoses are personal and confidential, so never share them with anyone who doesn’t need to know—like healthcare professionals, care workers, insurance providers, or close family members. Otherwise, you may face unwanted discrimination and judgment, or even reduced insurability.

Home Security Measures

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Never tell anyone who doesn’t live with you the code to your home alarm or safe or the location of valuable items like jewelry and cash. Sharing such details defeats the purpose of having such measures and puts your home at risk. If a neighbor or professional requires access to your house while you’re absent, change the access code immediately afterward.

Passwords

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According to Top Content, it’s important never to share your online account passwords or login credentials, even those for non-financial services like Twitter. Many people use identical or similar passwords across multiple accounts, which can result in unauthorized access, data breaches, and account closure.

Sensitive Work Information

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Many professional environments expect (or legally require) confidentiality, particularly in industries like healthcare, legal services, innovation, and finance. Unless explicitly authorized, never discuss work projects, client details, or company strategies with anyone outside your organization. Consequences can include getting fired, demoted, or even legally prosecuted!

Family Conflicts

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Family dynamics are complex, sensitive, and often hard to understand for people who haven’t grown up in your family or know its members. Although talking things through may help, be aware that outsiders can misunderstand family disagreements, assert blame unfairly, get inappropriately involved, or spread misinformation—adding to the drama!

Revealing Dreams

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The images, stories, and characters our brains conjure up while we sleep can seem like a confusing jumble of nonsense, but they often reveal subconscious feelings or deeply private desires. Be careful who you share your dreams with, as you may inadvertently let your biggest secrets slip!

Negative Opinions About Others

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Even if you trust the person you’re talking to, engaging in malicious gossip or sharing negative opinions about others can seriously come back to bite you in the behind! No matter how justified the comments, being indirectly critical can besmirch your own character, making you seem mean and untrustworthy.

Goals

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Unless you’re 100% confident that someone will support and understand your aspirations, we don’t recommend sharing them. Revealing to casual friends or colleagues your greatest life goals can attract unwanted negativity, unsolicited advice, or even mockery—which can harm your self-confidence and motivation.

Deeply Personal Thoughts and Feelings

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The New York Times says sharing your thoughts can be cathartic and promote bonding, but be careful before divulging your innermost thoughts, anxieties, or vulnerabilities. Even if you trust the person completely, you may feel drained and exposed afterward. And, should your relationship ever disintegrate, they’ll have plenty of sensitive information to use against you!

Political Views

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The old adage warns us to “never discuss religion or politics,” and this advice has some value. Political views can be deeply personal and polarizing, and the resulting arguments can lead to significant social friction and stress. Avoid highly sensitive topics and be respectful to avoid potentially damaging your relationships.

Past Regrets

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Dwelling on past mistakes or sharing them with others unnecessarily can hinder personal growth and the process of self-forgiveness. Unless seeking support from a therapist or close confidante, avoid oversharing the details of past failures and focus instead on positive thinking, learning from your mistakes, and moving forward.

Unrealistic Comparisons

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While it can be tempting to compare ourselves to seemingly more successful and attractive people, like celebrities, billionaires, and ‘lucky’ siblings, sharing such thoughts online or in friendship circles can make you an object of mockery. It can also fuel feelings of inadequacy and envy instead of helping you work past them.

Past Trauma

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Only the closest, most trusted, long-term friends should know about past traumatic experiences, heartache, or intensely difficult life experiences, so take great care who you share with. Oversharing trauma on social media or with casual acquaintances makes you vulnerable and can even make you seem dramatic or attention-seeking.

Mental Health Struggles

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Mental health awareness is vital, and you absolutely should have someone you can talk to and confide in, including a trained professional if necessary. However, be cautious when sharing the intricacies of your mental health issues with a wider social circle—you may be left feeling judged, exposed, or misunderstood.

Religious Views

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A person’s spirituality, or lack thereof, is often a highly personal core belief that can prompt intense emotion when discussed or challenged. For example, revealing your strong atheist tendencies to a devoutly Christian friend can seriously impact your friendship and foster an atmosphere of distrust and disagreement.

Feelings of Intense Anger

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When experiencing strong emotions like anger, resentment, or frustration, it’s important to find a healthy way to express them without unnecessarily involving other people. Sharing such intense feelings when you are still in the midst of them isn’t advisable. Calm yourself down before discussing the underlying problems with close confidantes.